My sympathy is of no value to anyone

 If you do not focus upon others' problem, you can continue to fell good, but they will still have the problem. That is true, at first. But if you do focus upon their problem, you fell bad, they continue to fell bad - and they still have the problem. And if you continue to focus on their problem, you will have the problem, too, in time. However, if you do not focus upon their problem, but instead try to imagine their solution or a positive outcome, you feel good - and their is then the possibility of your influencing them to more positive thoughts and outcomes.

 In simple terms: You are never of value to another (and you never offer a solution) when you are feeling negative emotion, because the presence of negative emotion within you means you are focused upon the lack of what is wanted, rather than what is wanted.

 So if someone is having a bad experience and they come into your awareness with a powerful wind of negativity wrapped around them, if you have not already deliberately achieved your alignment with feeling good, you may be swept into their negativity; you may become part of their chain of pain, and you may very well pass your discomfort onto another, who will then pass it on to another, and so on.

 But if you have been deliberately setting the tone of your day by putting your head on your pillow each night and saying, Tonight, as I sleep, all attention will stop, which means tomorrow I will have a new beginning; and tomorrow I will look for what I am wanting to see because I want to fell good - because feeling good is the most important thing! as you awaken in the morning, you will be upon a fresh path bringing no negativity from the day before. And then, as you walk into a room and you see someone with pain coming toward you, as this person comes with his or her pain, you do not become part of it, but instead you provide a better example of happiness, for that which you feel is that which you radiate.

 Now, it is not likely that just because you remain happy, other will immediately join you in your happiness. In fact, when there is a great disparity between the way you are feeling and the way others are feeling, you will have a difficult time relating to one another; but in time, if you maintain your positive vibrational stance, they will either join you in your positive place or they will vibrate right out of your experience. The only way unhappy people can stay in your experience is by your continuing attention to them.

 To sympathize with others means to focus upon their situation until you feel as they feel, and since everyone has the potential of feeling wonderful or feeling awful - of succeeding at their desires or of failing at their desires - you have options about which aspects of them you sympathize with. We encourage you to sympathize with the best-feeling aspects of others that you can find; and, in doing so, you may influence them to an improved condition, also.